Have you found that one who you are ready to spend a couple of forevers with? I am blessed to say that I married my someone on July 23, 2005. Marriage surely takes work! But marrying into a military family requires a new role with a new level of unpredictable situations. A military spouse typically learns to adapt to changing schedules, create ways to make life work, while doing some complaining on the side. I would be remised if I told you, “I don’t complain.” Because I have complained a lot since being Married to The Navy, there has been plenty of tears shed because things didn’t go as planned, or because I wasn’t able to get in contact with him to help figure things out. Or because he missed a countless number of holidays or celebrations.
There are many separations and reunifications as a military family. Thankfully, for Chief and I, it’s like growing in love over and over again. Yes, military life can be a challenge, but we choose to take the challenge head-on and do what we need to make “us” work. And because we choose to travel the path that some may walk away from, we celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary this past weekend.
1. Celebrate your monthly anniversary.
Don’t wait to celebrate a yearly anniversary, when the opportunity is present daily. It’s the simple things that make a big difference. It can be a date, a card, or open a bottle of wine. During my visit to California last year, Chief and I purchased a bottle of Sparkling Wine to celebrate our reunification (one day, we honestly didn’t have a date in mind at that time). It worked out perfect because we were able to celebrate our reunification on our wedding anniversary
2. Celebrate life’s milestones.
Your wedding anniversary isn’t the only milestone to celebrate. You can celebrate a new anniversary of your career, promotions, personal-development, completing a semester in school. All of these are reasons to celebrate! We visited Harmony Cellars for wine tasting. We sat, sipped and talked for hours, we reflected on many aspects of our lives. But more importantly, we celebrated what we consider to be the next chapter of our life. We also purchased the wine glasses as a souvenir. The view from our table overlooked downtown Harmony. Where we also purchased a cup of ice cream to share.
3. Suprise each other.
We didn’t have any actual plans for the weekend we spent in Pismo Beach. We traveled the coast and made multiple stops. Our wedding anniversary trip was filled with surprises, not so much of the monetary surprises, but the surprises that can’t be bought. One of the highlights of our trip was walking the beach and dining at Oyster Loft.
Cheif and I were separated for over a year, therefore, to celebrate us (in all aspects) will never be taken for granted. We celebrated far more than our wedding anniversary. After 14 months, we celebrated the fact that we share the same physical address. We discussed some of the most unbearable situations we were in, but also reflected on the Lord’s promise.
1. Proverbs 19:21 – Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.
2. Galatians 6:9 – And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up.
3. 1 Peter 5:8 – Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.
4. Hebrew 13:21 – He will equip us with everything to do His will.
Use every day as an opportunity to celebrate your marriage and spouse. Take some time to look over your wedding album, dance together, or write a love letter. I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment below and let me know how you celebrate your marriage (or relationship) daily, monthly, or yearly?
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