Last time we discussed 5 things that your anxiety doesn’t want you to know. It’s time to talk about depression. There are things that it maybe does want you to know such as you need to change something in order to proceed with your life. But very often our brain gets trapped in a negative thinking process, that in turn paralyzes us. And it does that to the point, we feel like we lack energy or desire to make necessary changes.
To heal we should be able to recognize those negative thoughts and create an absolutely new way of thinking. I am not saying it’s easy, but with the right help of your therapist, you will most likely be able to change your life for the better.
Things are not as bad as your mind is telling you
When we suffer from anxiety or depression we are prone to letting our minds take control over our lives. Unpleasant intrusive thoughts can be very debilitating, especially when we give them too much power. The more we engage with our thoughts, the more powerful they become. These thoughts that feel like they are true are called cognitive distortions. The examples are all-or-nothing thinking, overgeneralizing, black and white thinking.
All-or-nothing thinking involves absolute terms (never, ever, etc.) and it robs you of the ability to see gray areas. If your mind is telling you that you will never be able to succeed, you will not feel motivated to even try. The same is with overgeneralizing: if you think one failure means you will only fail in the future, it’s pretty “normal” for your mind to shut down and “preserve energy” by simply not wanting to do anything.
It is hard but it’s important to remember that what we think today is not necessarily the truth. Training your mind to at least present you with options takes time and patience, but it’s very rewarding as it will set you free.
You are not broken, lazy, or doomed to suffer from depression
Very often people who suffer from depression think that they are broken and there’s nothing that can help them. People around them may say they are just lazy, which doesn’t help the problem. Remembering that depression is an illness, just like diabetes or high blood pressure, may help. Basically, educate yourself on the subject of depression. Since it’s so prevalent in our society today, there are now many helpful informative resources that can help you see yourself as a person who needs help, not as someone who chose to feel this way.
Depression is an illness and it can be treated
As is stated in the previous paragraph, depression is an illness. But it doesn’t mean there are no solutions. Even now, with the limited amount of research that we have, a few good options for treating depression exist. However, again, if we think in absolutes and believe that nothing will ever help, it can slow us down in our recovery process. Just like with any other illness, treating depression will require consistency, dedication, and patience. Sticking to it and not giving up is very important.
It’s not your fault you are unmotivated
Motivation doesn’t come easy to anyone, but for those suffering from depression, it s harder than anything. Guilt is something that can exacerbate feelings of depression. Try to look at yourself with compassion, instead of judgment.
There is hope in dealing with depression
Hopelessness is a synonym for depression. If you don’t believe you can feel better or don’t see anything bright about your future, you will find it hard to even seek help. I want to be clear, that sometimes depression treatment requires more than working with cognitive distortions. For some people, medications can help. But one thing is true for everyone: there is hope!
With this being said, if you are dealing with depression, don’t hesitate to seek help. Click here to make an appointment with your therapist.
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